Mar 26, 2020
Coach Sam’s guest in this episode of Warrior Week: Parables
From the Pit is Jeff Oldroyd, graduate of Warrior Week 55, the week
it never stopped raining! What did Jeff realize that first night in
the Pit? What does he treasure most in this world? How does he show
up for his kids and the kids in their small community? What simple
but important message do Coach Sam and Jeff have for the fathers
listening to this podcast?
Parable #1: Precursor to Warrior
- About ten years prior to finding Warrior, Jeff created a symbol
and statement of his life based upon a book his friend had written.
“By having a balance between my belief in God, my family, my
business, and my active, adventurous lifestyle, I will achieve my
life’s goals and dreams.”
- When Warrior came into his life, Jeff was already heavily into
the habit of Core 4 (Body, Balance, Being, and Business), but now
had the tools to not only back it up but to also take it to the
next level.
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What were the conditions of your life when Warrior was
introduced to you?
Parable #2: The Pit
- Upon entering Warrior Week, Jeff had no clue why he was there,
but he was committed to submitting to the process. During that
first night in the Pit, what opened up for him was the love he had
for his family.
- One of the most significant moments for Jeff was the
introduction of the Dark and Light Warrior and the amount of power
and love that he felt when they were both joined together.
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What has been your experience with the Dark and Light
Warrior?
Parable #3: A Voice to Be Heard
- Pre Warrior, Jeff’s life was pretty much on an even keel. His
relationship with his wife was more functional than passionate, and
he had reached the point where he was sick of mediocrity.
Post-Warrior, Jeff has opened up more with his children and has
been able to have deeper conversations with them.
- As dads in today's world, you have to have massive amounts of
influence and persuasion over your children, as there's an
over-abundance of information available to them that will over-ride
your voice if it’s not clear and cannot be heard by them.
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How have your conversations with your children changed since
taking on the Warrior lifestyle?
Parable #4: The Land of Yes or No
- Once you label yourself as a Warrior inside this game of life
you become someone who has been awakened, and there comes an
understanding of and subscription to what Warrior is, which is
found in the land of yes or no, but never in the land of maybe
which leave things unresolved.
- “What is Wake Up Warrior? We wake up, and then we live in the
land of yes or no. If I tell you I’m going to be there tomorrow by
eight, I will be there by eight.” Ultimately, that is how you must
operate with your children; otherwise, you leave things
unresolved."
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What can you do to strengthen your resolve to live in the land
of yes or no more often?
Parable #5: Be Present
- As a martial arts instructor, Jeff teaches many kids whose dads
aren’t around. As a result, he and his boys have become their role
models, causing Jeff to wonder why dads aren't stepping up to take
care of their kids.
- Both Jeff and Coach Sam advise fathers "to just show up and be
present. That’s it. Just be there and let it happen. Put your phone
down and be consumed by your child and the energy of their
environment. Don’t delegate it to your wife, the nanny, or the big
brother."
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How do you show up for your children? What is one thing you can
do to improve that?
Parables from the Pit
"Believing is not enough. You can have a story that you
believe, but if you don’t act on those beliefs, you’re a fucking
liar."
--Sam Falsafi
"I didn’t realize how much I had to tear down in order to
build myself back up."
--Jeff Oldroyd
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